Stop Doing This Alone |Life and chronic illness

The science is there…

As humans we yearn for it…

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Image source: David Castillo Dominici

“We are wired to connect”

So, what’s the initial response when you get sick and branded by chronic illness… you disconnect.

Epic social shutdown…

The first few years you’re trying to figure out how to manipulate your “new” body, forcing yourself daily to be “somewhat” present. You could care less about connecting with people.

A few years of being smothered by anger and depression, you’ve likely shut yourself off from social interaction.

If your illness has left you homebound, your exposure to social interaction is slim to non existent.

It’s not your fault! You’re confronting limitations and addressing health concerns.

But,  it’s important you understand that lack of social interaction is harmful to your health

Yes, isolation is harmful to your health!

While you’re in isolation mode, your social skills are not being challenged.

Remember what happened to Tom Hanks (Chuck Noland) in the movie Cast Away? His need to connect, and forced isolation, drove him to turn a volleyball into his best friend… AKA Wilson. (Heads up… I tried to watch the scene on YouTube, and I couldn’t get through it! Yikes… talk about movement. )

Instead, here’s the audio of Chuck Noland losing ” Wilson”…:

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For those that can handle movement in video:

Can you relate? Replace the word “Wilson” with (insert your name) “__________” . Talk about a lesson in letting go!

I lost it when “Wilson” get’s lost at sea! Terrible.

Eventually, like Noland, you’ll move through the grieving process and then what?

Rebuilding and reconnecting!

I hope you’re convinced or at least questioning the importance of connecting again.

No need to rush. Start out slow…

1. Consider joining a Facebook group and answering  a few Facebook posts . ( I’ve met AWESOME people through various Facebook groups, and even connected with a few people via Skype.)

2. How about listening in on a chronic illness support group call? Chronic Pain Anonymous is awesome. Here’s the link:

Don’t be afraid to fail.

It’s been awkward trying to reconnect with people, especially from my past, but that won’t deter me, and it shouldn’t deter you!

Reconnect and rebuild… you’re worth it… your overall health depends on it!

Much love,

PS: You need someone to connect with… I got your back. Shoot me a message via my contact form, or comment below. We got this!

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