Relax, Doctors Are Human. Kinda.

I can’t speak for you, but doctors stress me out!

I prepare for medical appointments the same way I prepare for final exams.

I spend weeks researching terms and piecing together what I believe is relevant data.

Carrie and Saul standing in front of Carries color coded wall.

Photo: Kent Smith/SHOWTIME- Homeland

I print out pages of medical journals pouring over complex medical terminology I’m not qualified to comprehend. That doesn’t stop me from trying.

Armed with groundbreaking information…recent symptom checklist…list of questions… I’m prepared for battle.

It NEVER seems to go as well as planned out in my head!

Doc: ” Hello. I’m Dr. SharpAsATack. What brings you here today?

Me: “Well, this is happening. Ok, let me tell you. Did you read the latest breakthrough? Is this 5th symptom on my checklist normal? The last doctor I saw said I have Xyz. Do you believe me? ”

Total spew!

You know what I’m talking about?

It’s kinda sad. Fighting to get your life back, while given 15 minutes to plead your case in front of Dr. SharpAsATack, and the opportunity gets away because of intimidation. Craziness.

Scrubs and a lab coat get me every time.

I’ve been unable to view Dr. SharpAsATack as human, which rocks my confidence, hence spew.

There has to be a better way. Let’s get some things straight.

#1. Doctors are human!

Kinda. They are “special” humans that have a fascinating ability to understand complex data. Don’t allow that specialized knowledge to intimidate you.

#2. Less is more.

What expletive runs through my doctors mind when he/she glances at my manila folder filled with papers! Lol. I’m guessing… $HIT!

There’s nothing wrong keeping up on the latest medical findings, but be mindful not to inundate your doctor on the initial visit. Allow the relationship to cultivate. After a relationship is established, don’t be afraid to suggest an article you two can review.

Tip: While at initial visit, stay focused on presenting your medical history. If you suffer from dizziness, check out VEDAs suggested worksheets.

#3. Trust yourself.

I start to get a hot flash the second after the nurse says…” The doctor will be right with you.”

After nine years of living with these wretched symptoms, one might assume I would be confident rattling off my symptoms. That’s the problem with hidden disabilities. You learn to become a defense attorney that represents your symptoms from the first offense. Folks poke holes at your defense and you start questioning yourself! You live in your body and you know when something is off! Trust that.

I’m hoping these few simple points will help us both stay focused and remove some stress when tackling the next medical appointment.

Hugs and know that someone has your back.

Much love,
Marissa

6 comments

  1. These are good tips. Particularly remembering that the doctor can get overwhelmed too (because they’re human). If a doctor is willing to engage you—even when it means getting out of their comfort zones—that’s really special.

    • Blake,

      I respect a doctor that is willing to get uncomfortable! I prefer the words “I don’t know” rather than “Are you saying you’re an anomaly?”

      Much love,
      Marissa

  2. Doctors … they are trained for years in a certain way of logical thinking and responding!!! They wouldn’t pass and get licensed if they didn’t.

    I guess you just have to be confident that you are an expert on you and how you feel. Most decent doctors want to help and get very frustrated when they can’t solve “the mystery of what is wrong”. ( I worked with med students for over 12 years that is over 1000 beginner docs– and loved working with them for the most part.)

    Developing a good solid relationship with a family practice doctor who can act as an advocate for you with specialists is probably a wise thing to do.

    • Linda,

      You’re advice is spot on! I recently found a solid primary care physician. She is lovely spirit and a smart doctor. I didn’t realize what I was missing until I found her. I’m hoping our doctor patient relationship continues to strengthen!

      Much love,
      Marissa

  3. One thing I’ve learned to do is pray for the dr. Helps take my mind off of all the thoughts that are going through my head. I’m praying for your peace of mind and all your dr visits. “Cast all you cares on Him because He cares for you”

    • Great advice! I pray for patience and clarity, but I often forget to pray for the Dr. That is going to change.

      Much Love,
      Marissa

      PS: Thank you for your continued prayers!

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